Neurodiversity, working differently, and why capability does not always look familiar
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If you have ever wondered why parts of working life take more effort for you than they seem to for others, this piece is for you. If you work with, manage or will one day lead people whose way of working differs from yours, it is for you too.
Two people can be equally capable and look completely different at work.
One thinks aloud in meetings. Another takes time to reflect, then sends a note afterwards.One keeps a meticulous task list. Another can untangle a complex problem in an afternoon, yet finds routine administration takes far longer than expected. One builds relationships instinctively. Another finds networking draining, and notices the risks everyone else has missed.
Each brings something the team needs. But workplaces rarely assess capability alone. They also notice whether capability shows up in familiar ways. Many carry a hidden template of what “professional” is supposed to look like – and for anyone building a career, being capable and being recognised as capable are not always the same thing.
Different brains do not process work in identical ways
Neurodiversity describes a simple reality: human brains vary. They differ in how they process information, focus attention, use language, respond to sound and light, remember, organise and communicate. The term neurodivergent is often associated with ADHD, autism, dyslexia, dyspraxia and Tourette syndrome, among others.
This conversation is not only for people with a diagnosis. In many African contexts, formal assessment and specialist support may be difficult to access, and many professionals will have built careers without ever having a name for the patterns they experience. You may recognise some of these patterns in yourself or a colleague without any label at all – and that is completely fine.
This is not an invitation to diagnose yourself or anyone else. The more useful question is a practical one: what conditions help me, and the people I work with, do our best work consistently?
Strengths and challenges often travel together
We tend to expect ability to be evenly spread. If someone handles something highly complex, we assume simpler tasks come easily too. Human capability rarely works that way, and for many neurodivergent professionals the peaks and valleys are more pronounced.
Someone may remember everything about a subject that interests them, yet lose a verbal instruction given in a busy meeting. They may write with unusual precision, yet struggle to answer when put on the spot. They may concentrate on a hard problem for hours, yet find interruptions far more disruptive than colleagues do.
From the outside, this can look puzzling. From the inside, it can be tiring to explain. If the pattern feels familiar, look closely at where your performance is strongest, where it becomes harder, and what changes between the two. That is often where the most useful insight sits.
For managers, it is a reminder that a gap in one area says very little about capability in another.
Being capable, and being recognised as capable
Workplaces often read behaviour as shorthand. Quick verbal answers suggest intelligence. Eye contact suggests confidence. Sociability suggests leadership potential. Constant responsiveness suggests commitment.
These signals shape who is trusted with responsibility, put forward for opportunities and seen as ready to lead. Sometimes they are accurate. Often they are simply familiar.
This is why neurodiversity is a career question, not only an inclusion question. A young professional is not only trying to perform well. They are also trying to be recognised as capable by managers, colleagues, clients and institutions. The strongest leaders learn to distinguish style from substance – and to recognise when a familiar signal of capability is not the same thing as capability itself.
Every role comes with a second job
Every role has work you are employed to do: produce the analysis, manage the project, serve the client. It also has work nobody tells you that you are doing – interpreting expectations. How much detail is wanted. Which stakeholder really matters. That Friday means Thursday evening. When to ask and when to work it out yourself. That “perhaps we should revisit this” may mean “this is not acceptable.”
Some professionals learn that second job almost without noticing. Others decode it deliberately, and that takes real energy. Much workplace friction lives in this gap. An employee believes they followed the instructions; their manager sees a lapse in judgement. A supervisor sees a lack of initiative; the employee sees an assignment whose boundaries were never defined.
Neurodiversity shows how much that second job shapes careers – and how much better work becomes when it is made visible.
Clarity helps everyone do their best work
Before asking whether someone is difficult to manage, ask whether the work has been made easy to understand. Not easy to do. Easy to understand: what matters, what good looks like, who decides, when it is due, and how performance will be judged.
When performance falls short, effective managers look for the cause before reaching a conclusion. Are priorities explicit? Are instructions in a form this person can reliably use? Is this a capability gap, or a communication, environment or workflow one?
Clarity is not hand-holding. Clarity is management. It helps neurodivergent colleagues thrive, and it lifts the whole team.
High standards, many routes to meeting them
The most useful distinction is between the standard and the style. If a role involves client presentations, communicating well with clients is a legitimate requirement. If a strong performer prefers the agenda in advance to prepare their thinking, that is a working preference – not a signal about leadership potential.
So instead of asking someone to “be more proactive”, describe what proactive looks like in that role. Instead of judging whether someone “seems confident”, ask how they make decisions, explain their reasoning and own outcomes.
Some requirements are intrinsic to a job. A relationship manager must engage clients well. A project manager must find reliable ways to meet deadlines. A leader must communicate enough for others to act. These may be harder for some people, for good reasons, and the organisation still needs the outcome. The productive question is neither “should we excuse this?” nor “why can’t they just work normally?” It is: what capability does the role actually require, and is there another reliable way to produce it?
Knowing how you work is a career strength
For some readers, this will bring recognition. Perhaps you have wondered why you can concentrate for hours on one problem but struggle to start another. Why an open-plan office leaves you drained. Why you need things written down. Why you replay conversations afterwards, wondering what you missed. You are far from alone in that.
Recognition is not diagnosis, but it is a useful starting point. What conditions consistently produce my best work? What reliably throws me off course? Where do I need systems rather than willpower? What about my working style would help colleagues to know? And which skills does my role genuinely ask me to build, even where they do not come naturally?
That last question matters. Self-knowledge is not a reason to stop growing; it is what makes growth focused.
Six moments worth noticing
Over the coming week, notice how differently people might experience the same situations.
- Meetings. Some people think best out loud, others after time to reflect; agendas in advance help both.
- Deadlines. “End of week” means different things to different people; a specific day and time removes the guesswork.
- Feedback. Indirect feedback can be missed and blunt feedback can land hard; specific notes on what to keep and what to change serve everyone.
- Multitasking. Switching tasks costs some people far more than others; protected focus time can unlock remarkable work.
- Communication. Directness can be mistaken for rudeness, and quietness for disengagement; before interpreting behaviour, find out what it means.
- Environment. Noise, light and interruptions affect people very differently; small adjustments can transform concentration.
Join the conversation
Our upcoming live session moves from recognition to practical skill. If you recognise some of these patterns in yourself, or you work alongside someone who thinks differently, we will look at how to tell a difference in style from a difference in effort or ability. If you manage people, the session will surface how designing work, expectations and feedback keeps standards high and helps everyone contribute fully.
